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April 14, 2016

Q&A: Why didn’t you delete your Twitter?

I wanted to address something, which I’ve addressed many times on my Twitter account but seems to be missed by some.

A few weeks ago, I said I would be deleting my Twitter. This was for a number of reasons. I did delete my Twitter, but I noticed as soon as I did, my readership numbers went down greatly. I realized that Twitter, out of all the social media platforms I use, was the best social media promoter out there (right now), and even though I didn’t want to really deal with it on a daily basis, I needed it for my brand and business, so I decided to reactivate.

I have been accused of claiming to delete for attention. This is absolutely untrue, and I know some of you will still refuse to believe me – that is fine. But I wanted to write a post about it because it’s getting frustrating constantly addressing it in my ask. It was not for attention. Quite frankly, I was sick of the drama, sick of the bullying, and sick of the constant negativity that comes with that platform. I am quite a bit older than most of the people on Twitter, and as a result, I tend to get negative feedback from those who haven’t learned better or who just have nothing better to do than to bring people down. You’ll grow up one day and realize how stupid the whole thing was; of that, I’m sure.

To those of you that have seemed/seem to want me to delete my Twitter so badly, I say this to you lovingly and authentically: Everyone makes mistakes. Everyone has bad days. If you’ve never made a mistake on Twitter, then you truly are perfection, and I bow to you. If you’ve never gotten involved in drama or a Twitter argument, you are a saint. If you wanted and still want me to delete that badly, please unfollow me. It will save you aggravation and you won’t have to waste your time rolling your eyes at whatever it is I do that bothers you. I say that with zero reservation.

Do I want to be on Twitter? No. It has gotten progressively worse since I started on eq anon island and since I started becoming more public with my life, but I need it for my brand and my business. And for those of you that don’t think you have a brand, you do if you use social media frequently and have a lot of followers.

There are a select few of you who get away with being a bully constantly and bringing others down. I salute you. Maybe you don’t care about your brand. Maybe you don’t care what others secretly think behind your back. Just like I’m not immune to hate; neither are you. But, what goes around comes around.

Maybe, one day, there will be another platform that promotes my blog better than Twitter. But for now, I need it to continue to up my numbers.

And, for the record, your negativity against others, whatever it may be, says more about you than it does about the other person.

Leave a Comment · Filed Under: Personal, Q&A, Question & Answer

March 22, 2016

Selling a few SmartPak items

Hi everyone!

I am selling a few SmartPak items that I don’t wear (I literally only wore them once). If interested, click here for the Piper breeches (24R); here for the Alexus SunShield shirt (XS); and here for the Bradley performance short sleeve (XS). I also have a Kensington black horse sized fly mask for sale too – used but affordable. They are for sale only because I a. no longer use them and b. have way too many breeches and shirts.

All prices include shipping.

Happy shopping!

Leave a Comment · Filed Under: Equestrian Fashion, Fashion, Horses, Personal

March 8, 2016

Confessions of An Aspiring Amateur: Tough love & a reality check

Photo Credit: MyEquiCoach.com

Photo Credit: MyEquiCoach.com

My second to last lesson wasn’t the greatest. Well, I’m pledging to focus on the good, not the bad, so my fall will not be the highlight of my lesson. However, I did have a fall. My horse bucked twice at the canter going one direction; I sat it fine. My horse bucked in the other direction; I got unseated and fell.

I was upset, frustrated, confidence shaken. But I wasn’t as timid about getting back on. I just hated that I fell. I hated that this horse was handing me my ass on a shiny silver platter. I hated that he was exposing me and my weaknesses and my lack of motivation.

I have not been riding as consistently due to my riding funk, which I have talked about extensively, my lack of motivation, the weather, and my horrible, chronic health issues –  so, understandably I am weak. I’ve found myself asking “Do I really want the success?” “Do I really want to have to give up one of my horses in order to one day get a true jumper?” “Do I really love riding?” “Is this really my passion?” “Do I really want to do what’s best for me and the animals I own?”

Despite my recent health issues (I had a two week migraine in February, followed by a cold/sore throat stint at the end of February), there were a few times I could’ve gone out and ridden through a cold, especially after popping some Advil and getting my fever down to a manageable level.

After my fall and me getting back on, my trainer gave me some tough love that day.

She said no more excuses (truth). I fell because I hadn’t been riding, and my legs were weak (truth). Riding while having a migraine was one thing she didn’t want me to do because it was dangerous (truth), but if I had a sore throat or a stuffy nose or a mild fever, pop some Advil and force myself to come to the barn (truth). I needed to ride to be strong and make progress (truth). I needed to be present (truth).

That really stuck with me. I needed to be present. I have all these lofty goals, and I am allowing a little funk get in the way of them after all this success and progress I’ve had and made. My trainer (nicely, even though she doesn’t have to be) calls me on my bulls*t and lets me know when I am effing up. I really appreciate her for that. And I know, or at least I hope, she does it because she believes in me and my (somewhat hidden) talent and ability and wants me to get better.

We all go through phases and riding funks. Sometimes we have to take breaks or sometimes we have to force ourselves to get out there and just do it. That’s what I need to go, and that fall was my reality check. I shouldn’t have fallen, especially because I had sat two bucks perfectly prior to that. My horse threw a buck afterwards again, and I sat it and dealt with it perfectly. There was no reason I should’ve fallen.

I hated knowing that I had disappointed my trainer. I see her as a role model and a rider I would like to be like one day. I see her as a friend (hopefully our friendship never ends badly – my biggest fear), and I see her as someone who wants the best for me and my horses. I see her as someone I trust and as someone who pushes me to be the best I can be, even when I doubt myself. “Practice guts,” as she says to quote a well-known blog post.

Be present. Have guts. Push yourself.

And sit that buck, dammit!

2 Comments · Filed Under: Confessions of An Aspiring Amateur, Horses, Lesson Recap, Personal

March 8, 2016

Riding with a chronic illness

For those of you that have followed me for a while, you know I suffer from chronic migraines that often affect my ability to ride.

Ever since my severe concussion last fall, my migraines have been worse, and I was diagnosed with post-traumatic headache syndrome – something that those who suffer from migraines are more prone to.

I have been getting more migraines than usual, and it has taken a severe toll on riding. It also doesn’t help that my migraines are triggered by weather/pressure/temperature changes, which are running rampant this time of year. For example, yesterday it was in the 40s and today, tomorrow, and the rest of the week are going to be in the 70s – 50s!

I have met many people on Twitter and Facebook who suffer from chronic illnesses; yet they battle through and continue their riding careers. If you suffer from a chronic illness, it can be frustrating, debilitating, and make you want to give up your passion – I know it’s done that to me, especially this season.

So, if you suffer from a chronic illness, what can you do?

First, see a doctor who specializes in your illness. Consulting with a medical professional is of the utmost importance. They know what’s best and what can help you. Furthermore, if you shouldn’t be riding (something all of us dread), they will tell you.

Second, ride when you can. For those of us who are affected on a frequent basis, being able to ride is a luxury. If you can ride one day, take advantage of it. You never know when, or if, you’ll be able to ride again – depending on what you suffer from.

Third, power through. If you can, and if it’s safe, power through. I’m not saying if you’re dying of a severe migraine, throwing up, and severely light-sensitive to go get on a horse – but if you are able to ride, do it. I know that if I have a minor headache or am feeling under the weather, getting on a horse and focusing on something else makes me feel better. Sure, it may be hard to get the motivation to get out of bed in the morning and get yourself to go to the barn – but you’ll be glad you did so. As my trainer said, “A migraine is one thing – it’s dangerous to ride with a migraine. But if you’re suffering from a slight fever, pop some Advil, wait for it to subside, and come down to the barn and ride. Be here. You need to be here.”

Fourth, join a support group. There are many support groups online for riders with chronic illnesses. I’ve linked two of my favorites here and here. We can all relate, and we all support each other immensely.

Fifth, be positive. I’m not saying this will cure your disease. Maybe you have something that can’t be cursed. But a positive attitude will help you have a better outlook on you and your riding.

Sixth, listen to your body. Your body will tell you if you are okay to ride on a certain day. If it’s saying no, listen. You don’t want to cause yourself more harm. Trust me.

Leave a Comment · Filed Under: Equestrian Health, Horses, Personal, Riding Tips

March 4, 2016

Reframe a bad riding lesson

Most of the time when we have a fall in a lesson, or have some other type of bad thing happen during a lesson, that is what we focus on. And – it’s only natural for us, as humans, to focus on the negative. How many times do we remember the negative said about us but forget the compliments? It’s kind of like when we have a “bad” riding lesson.

I fell off yesterday, and that was all I could dwell on. Nevermind I sat to two bucks prior to that or controlled my horse’s fourth attempt at bucking after I fell. Nevermind I wasn’t as timid about getting back on. Nevermind I fell and didn’t hit my head. Nevermind I had an amazing lesson on my even more amazing behaved 6 year old where I took the right distances to jumps that normally made me uncomfortable. All I could focus on was that dang fall.

If you have a bad lesson, reframe it. Look at what went right; not what went wrong. I know this is hard and will take practice, but this is advice my barn owner gave me, and I realized she was right. I, and others, focus on what went wrong – not what we did right. Hey, I fell correctly (ie., I didn’t hit my head). Hey, I got right back on. Hey, I took those hunter distances without hesitation. Hey, I rode through a fever. Hey, I’m in a huge funk and lacking motivation right now, but I still came out and rode.

Am I sore? Of course. Is my pride a little wounded? Duh.

But, there’s more to a riding lesson than a fall. Or a missed distance. Or a bad course. Or terrible lead changes. Or being unable to get your horse in a frame for some odd reason. Or just being weak physically because of lack of riding time.

If you really look at everything, you can find the good, and that’s what’s most important. That’s what we need to focus on when things don’t always go our way (because listen, our partner has its own mind; things won’t always go our way).

Take the challenge you experienced. Put it in your back pocket. Use it as a learning experience.

Leave a Comment · Filed Under: Horse Advice, Horses, Personal, Riding Tips, Tips, Training Tips

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